This is a subject that does crop up from time-to-time.
The responses in this thread are an excellent example of how we SHOULD discuss things, rationally and without rancor.
That the situation (AND I HAVE, literally, NO KNOWLEDGE OF WHAT HAPPENED) escalated to the point that a member considers withdrawing from the club is very unfortunate. I hope that does not happen.
At the suggestion of the British Army Commander (Dierk), I wrote to the British Army Left Wing the below email exerpt, which I think is appropriate for everyone. It has been said in different form in the posts, here.
"There has been a series of communications and miscommunications by two members of the CCC. The result has been a disruption in the orderly processes of the club.
If two people have a dispute about a game, they (one or both) should contact their immediate commander, via email, and apprise him of the situation. Do this before the problem escalates to a pushing and shoving match.
Please read the Club Rules at:
http://www.wargame.ch/1776/rules.html and you will see that we tried to address this very subject in the "Poor Game Conduct" section. We cannot anticipate all instances of member problems, but most, if not all, can be solved to everyones satisfaction by DISCREETLY involving your immediate commander (me) in the discussion.
Before you start to accuse an opponent of cheating (which is a very strong term in our neighborhood), please allow your commanders to explore the situation and mediate as needed. Almost all of the time, we can resolve the problem by discussion. Sometimes the only solution is for the members involved to NOT play each other in future games. More often than not, it is poor use of the game or "gamey" tactics that are the root of the problem
Generally speaking, the TAVERN is not the proper place to initiate your discussion. Sometimes it is a good idea to make the problem public knowledge and be able to discuss the merits or non-merits of various positions, AFTER the matter was been resolved and without acrimony. "
Ernie Sands, President, Colonial Campaigns Club